How to feel worthy

As humans, we desire to be worthy and we seek it in various ways.  However, it’s important to understand that feeling worthy is an entirely an inside job.

I watched a life changing TED Talk called ‘The Power of Vulnerability’ which I have linked below. Here are my favourite points and my take on how to feel worthy:

  • Develop a sense of courage, compassion and connection
    The courage to be imperfect, because you’re okay exactly the way you are right at this very moment. Embrace your imperfections, they are a part of you!
    The compassion to be kind to yourself first and then to others. You can’t be compassionate to other people if you’re not compassionate with yourself.
    The connection as a result of authenticity. Let go of who you think you should be, in order to be who you truly are. That’s how you connect with yourself and with others.
  • Embrace vulnerability
    Understand that what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful. For many of us vulnerability is the core of shame, fear and our struggle for worthiness. However, vulnerability is also the birth place of joy, creativity, love and belonging. When you’re vulnerable you’re learning and you’re becoming a stronger person. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is allowing yourself to be human.
  • Understand that you can’t selectively numb emotions
    When we try to numb the painful feelings that make us vulnerable by drinking, eating or finding a distraction, we numb everything else too. We also numb joy, gratitude, happiness. This leads to feeling miserable and then we numb some more. It’s a vicious cycle. Numbing vulnerability makes the uncertain certain. It’s preventing room for personal growth. So embrace vulnerability. Feel all the emotions freely.
  • Let yourself be seen with your whole heart even if there’s no guarantee
    Know that you are wired for struggle so you are strong enough to handle everything you are going through, by the beauty of human nature itself.
  • Practice gratitude and joy
    To feel vulnerable means that you are alive.
  • Believe that you are enough
    You ARE worthy of love and belonging.

It’s taken me a lot of conscious effort to realise that I am worthy of great things.
It all started off with me surrendering to my vulnerability.

“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable;
to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” ― Criss Jami

17 thoughts on “How to feel worthy

  1. The love inside of me comes at a price of allowing my son to rob me of happiness, and caused me to self destruct. I am struggling with the desire to give my 18 yr old a place to live that is causing me to be evicted. I’m living in a hell with him and whoever he invites over. I’m scared to say a word.


  2. Thank you. Thats what i needed to add to my journey of personal growth and self development. My blog today shows that xx


  3. This is one of my favorite TED talks of all time! Learning that courage means to speak from the heart has really affirmed the worth of my natural tendency for emotional honesty, which, as a male in society, has often left me vulnerable to devastating criticism. I can’t and won’t be any other way, so I’m needing and starting to learn that anyone who can’t hold the space for this kind of courage is not worth the energy – they are on their own path, and will learn in their own time. May your vulnerability attract to you allllllll the beautiful people.

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      • It was. Would you terribly mind sharing my site. I am getting emails from friends of abuser asking me to drop charges and essentially blaming me for having been attacked. I can use the help in spreading the word that it’s simply not okay to blame victims of abuse.


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